The young generation is bright, focused, and confident — we must encourage them to reach for the stars
It’s been 20 long years since I’ve been dealing with young adults on a daily basis. As a result, I’ve become more than familiar with their sources of both happiness and agony. Even though it was difficult at first to teach a classroom full of young people in their early 20s, I’ve grown to love them, understand them, and respect them as individuals.
These youngsters are nothing less than smart and talented. They have a very positive approach to life, are lively, more focused and determined, and at the same time have values that make a well-rounded person. Despite them being smart enough to correctly evaluate most situations they’re in, the fact that many situations are not in their control may cause frustration amongst these children, which can lead to them making wrong decisions, like not concentrating on studies, misbehaving with people, or even abusing drugs.
Children should be understood, supported, and guided by parents, for them to overcome hurdles they may face. However, they should also not be spoon-fed to the extent where they’ll be unable to solve problems on their own.
A child learns from what they see their parents doing, not what they are taught. A child wouldn’t want to read books if they saw their parents looking at screens all the time. “Ordering” children to do things will not bring about changes parents would want to see — live and let live.
Let us teach our children the difference between right and wrong, and let them learn how to make decisions on their own and face the consequences. What we as parents can do is guide our children into making the “correct” decisions, but what may be correct for us may not necessarily be correct for them — they belong to a completely different generation; although accepting change may be difficult, evolution is inevitable.
A sacred relationship
The relationship between a child and his/her parents is the most sacred. Us, parents, are the closest people are in our children’s lives. Although it is a part of our responsibility as parents to discipline our children, we must also be their friends. Children aren’t perfect, and neither are we.
What we as parents can do is treat each child as an individual, so that in case they do something wrong, they won’t be scared to come to their parents and end up lying to us. Instead, we must develop such a relationship with our children where we would be the first people they go to and ask for help — this sort of healthy relationship would not only strengthen our bonds with our children, but may also prevent them from getting the “wrong” kind of help or making “wrong” decisions on their own.
Additionally, although friends are important, children should also understand that friends may not be their “ideal,” and peer pressure is not something they should give into — having bad company can very easily a create mess.
“Never stop moving, growing, learning, and dreaming”
What is also a vital factor in children becoming confident and having less complexes is the relationship between parents. Oftentimes, I’ve seen that children remain very upset because of uncomfortable situations at home due to their parents not having as good a relationship.
When parents fight amongst each other, it negatively affects children more than they can imagine. Many students have come up to me and said that their state of mind is not good at all since there is “no peace at home.” Children who are comfortable in their own skin will only come from homes where parents have respect and love for each other.
Even if parents live separately or aren’t married anymore, it is extremely important for them to create such an environment around their children where they wouldn’t feel unsafe or uncomfortable, for them to grow up without any complexes.